Financial Peace University: LESSON FOUR

The fourth lesson taught by Dave Ramsey in Financial Peace University was titled "Dumping Debt". In this class, Dave debunked a lot of financial myths and taught us how to efficiently get out of debt.

There are a lot of myths that have been told so many times they are now accepted as truth. Debt has only become accepted as normal in America over the last 20 years. Credit cards have only been in existence since 1950, but now it seems like the normal way of life.

Dave was very straightforward and completely popped these myths passed off as truth. He didn't mince words and sometimes it was a little uncomfortable to listen to because I have fallen prey to some of the myths. Here are some examples of myths Dave debunked during this class:

MYTH: Cash advance, rent-to-own, title pawning, and tote-the-note car lots are needed services for lower income people to get ahead.
TRUTH: These are horrible, greedy rip-offs that aren't needed and benefit no one but the owners of these companies.

MYTH: Playing the lottery and other forms of gambling will make me rich.
TRUTH: The lottery is a tax on the poor and on the people who can't do math.

MYTH: Car payments are a way of life, and you'll always have one.
TRUTH: Staying away from car payments by driving reliable used cars is what the typical millionaire does. That is how they became millionaires.

MYTH: You need a credit card to rent a car or to make a purchase online or by phone.
TRUTH: A debit card will do all of that, except for a few major rental companies. Check in advance.

MYTH: "I pay mine off every month with no annual fee. I get brownie points, air miles, and a free hat."
TRUTH: A recent Dun and Bradstreet study found that when you use plastic instead of cash, you spend 12-18% more because spending cash hurts. So what if you get 1% back and a free hat?

MYTH: The home equity loan is good for consolidation and is a substitute for an emergency fund.
TRUTH: You don't go into debt for emergencies.

MYTH: Debt consolidation saves interest, and you get just one smaller payment.
TRUTH: Debt consolidation is a con.
TRUTH: Debt consolidation typically saves little or no interest because you will throw your low interest loans into the deal.
TRUTH: You can't borrow your way out of debt.
TRUTH: Smaller payments equal more time in debt.

Here is an interesting question:

How much could you save, invest, blow, and give if you had no payments?

Steps out of debt
1. Quit borrowing more money.
2. You must save money.
3. Prayer really works.
4. Sell something.
5. Take a part time job or overtime (temporarily).

BABY STEP 2: Pay off all debt using the debt snow ball method.


Lessons Learned:
This was a very interesting class to sit through. There are a lot of myths I still can't let go of, like the one about needing a credit card to rent cars or make online purchases, and the one about the rewards you get back when using your card but paying off the balance every month. What Dave says makes sense, but I can't seem to let go of them very easily.

But one major thing came out of this lesson...I paid off my car!! Yep! My 2008 Honda CR-V is now PAID OFF! And in less than one year. I know...I purchased a brand new car, not a reliable used one, but I did a lot of negotiating and I got a really good deal. And I bought the car before I took Dave's class, so I didn't know better. :o)

I do not have a savings anymore, but I also do not have any payments, car or credit cards! I am completely debt free (except for my house) and it is AWESOME! I am now on baby step 3, which is fully funding my emergency fund (three to six months of expenses). I am on my way to becoming a millionaire. :o)

Financial Peace University: LESSON THREE

The third lesson taught by Dave Ramsey in Financial Peace University was titled "Cash Flow Planning". In this lesson, Dave teaches us step by step how to put together a zero-based monthly budget and how to complete all of the financial management forms. Taking control of your money takes time, effort and patience.

Dave gave us three key points:

1. Spend all money on paper before the month begins.
2. Use the envelope system for successful cash management.
3. Give your budget 90 days to really start working.

What is the envelope system?
It is a way of keeping track when you pay cash for everyday items, like food, gas, toiletries, etc. Once a month, you put cash in labeled envelopes for specific categories. You only use that cash and cannot got beyond what's in the envelope. Paying cash for things makes you think twice about wants vs. necessities. It's harder to part with Lincoln, Hamilton, or Jackson than it is to swipe a card in a machine and punch in a code or sign your name.

As part of this class, we were given a nifty booklet with envelopes. It is very cool.

Some reasons why we SHOULD do a cash flow plan:

- Managed money goes farther.
- A written plan, if actually lived and agreed on:

• will remove many of the money fights from your marriage.
• will remove much of the guilt, fear, and shame that may now be part of buying necessities such as food or clothing.
• will remove many of the overdrafts from your life, consequently removing a lot of stress.
• will show if you are overspending in a certain area.

Cash flow plans DO NOT work when you:

- Leave things out.
- Overcomplicate your plan
- Don't actually do it.
- Don't actually live on it.

Helps from Dave

Dave gives us a lot of tips and tools to help us start our zero-based budget and lessons on how to balance our checking account, if we need the help. He gave us MANY forms to help us as we sit down for the first time and really create a zero-based budget.

Just with this lesson alone, it is worth enrolling in the class. You can check online on Dave Ramsey's web site to see when the class is offered next in your area. You can also take the course online now.

Lessons Learned
This class helped me learn the importance of making and keeping a budget. It really is a good idea, but I have to admit it has taken me a couple of months to really get started. This particular class was given in April and I have only now (in June) started keeping track of my money with a zero-based budget. So far so good, but it's a little difficult to find the time to do it. I know I will be better off as I get more used to this and am better able to know where every penny goes.

Financial Peace University: LESSON TWO

The second lesson taught by Dave Ramsey in Financial Peace University was titled "Relating with Money". This lesson is about the importance of working together in relationships and how we handle money. How you manage your money (or how it manages you!) affects your personal relationships, especially those with your closest family members.

Dave gave us four key points:

1. Men and women think very differently about money.
2. The nerd and free spirit must learn how to work together.
3. If you are single, find an accountability partner with whom to discuss your finances.
4. Teach your children how to manage money so they avoid our mistakes.

I will try to explain these points in my own words:

Men vs. Women
In a very over-generalization, Dave gave us the difference between men and women when it comes to money:

To men, money usually represents a scorecard and their self-esteem depends on how well they do financially.

To women, money usually represents security; they face fear or terror if there are financial problems or they feel secure if things are going well for them financially.

Dave said, "Guys, always be aware of the woman's security gland. When it tightens up, it will affect the whole relationship".

The number one cause of divorce in America is money fights.

Dave stressed the importance of both husband and wife sharing the financial decision making in a family. You need to have a budget committee meeting with both of you involved so EVERYONE knows what's happening with the family money.

Nerd vs. Free Spirit
A nerd is someone who is very detailed oriented, who likes to be in control, who likes to keep a budget and is good at it, and who likes to feel they are taking care of loved ones.

A free spirit is someone who spends money without thinking about it, who does things on a whim, and who is just fine with someone else taking care of money matters.

Dave stresses the importance of both Nerd and Free Spirit (if they are husband and wife) working together to make financial decisions. He says the partner with the natural gift can prepare the budget, but the decision making must be done by both. That means compromise from both parties. That means the free spirit must be more concerned about the budget and the nerd must give up some control to the free spirit when creating a budget. Both parties must be in attendance at the family's budget committee meetings each month.

Singles and Accountability Partners
This section was the most applicable to my situation right now. Dave says, "Beware of impulse buying, which can be brought on by stress or even by the "I owe it to myself" syndrome. A written plan gives the single person empowerment, self-accountability, and control. Singles must have an accountability partner who loves them enough to be brutality honest. This is someone to discuss major purchases and even your budget.

Kids and Money
Teaching your kids how to handle money is not the school's responsibility, it's YOUR responsibility. Dave suggests to pay commissions, not allowance. He says we have enough people in our society who expect to be made allowance for. If you work, you get paid; if you don't work, you do not get paid. You should teach by example. Show your children how to handle money. If they are old enough to understand, show them your budget and make them a part of that process. And make sure in your training, you show them how to budget for tithing!

Lessons Learned:
This lesson was more informational for me to store away for a future date. The biggest thing I learned from this lesson was to start a budget. I am pretty careful with my money, but I do not have an official budget I live by month to month. I really don't want to get an accountability partner, so I don't know if I will. I think I am my hardest critic when it comes to making major purchases. I agonize over it for weeks, months, and sometimes years before I actually purchase a new TV, or a couch, or a new car. I am guilty of impulse buying for little things, especially at Target or Costco...those stores can get dangerous for me. :o) Another thing I learned from this lesson is I am more of a NERD than a FREE SPIRIT. I don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing, but that's how it is.

California Dreamin'

I recently had the opportunity to go with a friend to California over Memorial Day weekend. It was a much needed get away from my busy, busy life. I drove with her and her four children to San Clemente on Friday (after work) and flew home that next Tuesday.

We stayed at her sister's house, which, by the way is the nicest house I've ever stayed in. Her sister and brother-in-law went to Italy for a bicycle tour around Tuscany and my friend watched their three kids while they were gone. I helped for the first couple of days, but then she was on her own with the seven...she survived because she is home now...and in one piece. :o)

The kids were really well behaved. I was really impressed with all of them. It was fun playing with the kids, hanging out, going to see Night at the Museum: Battle of the Smithsonian, swimming in their pool, watching the sun set on the beach, going to a HUGE California mall, dining out and dining in, playing games, going on walks, and doing whatever else we could think of.

Thanks, Anne, for inviting me!

Below are some pictures of the sunset on the beach:

Update: HK One

Here is the COMING SOON sign for the new HK One restaurant:


It's really happening! It will open in August this year. Michael will be specializing in French/Asian fusion food. I am not sure what that means, but it should be awesome! I can't wait!

A New Goal...

I decided I wanted to challenge myself to do something I didn't think I can do. I wanted to push myself more than I've ever pushed myself and what better way than to do three sports in one race. Yep! I am now training for a triathlon. I will still do the walking marathon, but I am cutting it down to a half marathon instead of a full one. But I think it will still be a good goal!

I can run a total of 5 minutes now!! Yay!! I started at 2 minutes so I am making some progress. I did some laps in a pool to make sure I still knew how to swim (I used to be a good swimmer). I forgot how much I LOVE to swim. I just don't like being in a swim suit. Finally, I have to buy a bicycle, then start training on that.

The triathlon is at the end of August...so I have some work to do. Wish me luck!

Hell's Kitchen is coming to town!!!!

This town is IN FOR A TREAT!! Michael Wray, the winner of Hell's Kitchen Season One, is opening a restaurant here. It will be called "HK1" and will be located in the old Las Trankas or (for long time residents) the old Golden Corral building.

And how do I know firsthand that he cooks brilliantly?....because I've tried his cooking...twice.

My business partner and good friend, Danny, met Michael a few months ago and then brought him to a get together at a friend's house. A group of friends watch a Joss Whedon TV show called Dollhouse together on Friday nights. One time, about a month ago, Michael cooked us gourmet pizza. Oh...My...Gosh!! To die for.... even the Prosciutto and Fig pizza...sounds weird, I know, but ... AMAZING. I think I liked the pepperoni the best, though. I am a traditional girl. :o) For dessert, I was sous chef and helped Michael make banana tempura. Another phenomenal treat for my palate.

This past Friday was Dollhouse’s season finale. We had a big party and Michael once again came to make us dinner. This time he made Mediterranean food (lamb and bison kebabs, grilled steak, tzatziki sauce, hummus, grilled flat bread, and grilled vegetables). I was in heaven!!

And now he is going to cook for everyone in town. We are really in for a treat!

Look for the COMING SOON sign to be posted on Tuesday in front of the restaurant. Then watch as the building gets a new façade and takes its shape. Also take note of the logo…it was designed by Danny (a brilliant graphic designer … oh, yeah, he is also my business partner … he is the reason our web pages always look so good). Danny even had a big part in designing the new look of the building. I’ve seen the blue prints and it is going to look AMAZING!

I, for one, cannot wait!!